Crime & Safety

Missing Mom Allegedly Set Up Sex Date With Stranger On Day She Disappeared

The missing woman met with a man who says he responded to an ad she placed on Craigslist.

Missing mom Linda Fellenbaum rendezvoused with a stranger for a sex date in Naperville on the last day she was seen alive, a Chicago man revealed.

"She had listed an ad saying she was a visitor to the city, that it was her last day in town," said the man, who asked not to be identified by name.

The man said he and Fellenbaum, 33, connected through an ad on Craigslist and met about 4 p.m. Sunday, Oct. 21, "in a parking lot by a cash advance place."

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"She said she got a hotel on Priceline and had to put money on her credit card," the man said.

They then drove separately to a hotel in Naperville, he said, but when they got there Fellenbaum backed out.

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"We briefly saw each other and she got cold feet," he said, adding, "We never ended up doing anything."

Less than four hours later, Fellenbaum vanished from the Joliet house where she had been living with her boyfriend of the last two months, police said.

The boyfriend, 40-year-old Donald Wolak, told detectives Fellenbaum left his home at 3608 Crockett Court on Joliet's far west side after they argued about a "large sum of cash" and a handgun he accused her of stealing from him, said Joliet police Cmdr. Brian Benton.

Wolak had filed a report with the Joliet police about the alleged theft on Oct. 16. He assumed she returned on Oct. 21 to give him back his gun and his money, Benton said.

When Fellenbaum supposedly fled after her argument with Wolak, she left behind her shoes, her cell phone and her car. The barefoot woman has not been seen since.

Wolak has failed to return calls for comment on his missing girlfriend. No one has answered the door to his house in the last two days or responded to a message left there.

Much like with the Chicago man she met with in Naperville, the police say Fellenbaum and Wolak made their acquaintance through the Internet.

Benton said Wolak has cooperated with detectives and allowed officers to search his home.

Benton also said the father of one of Fellenbaum's three children, Jason Dedera of Country Club Hills, has also cooperated with detectives. Fellenbaum's mother, Deborah Barr, said Fellenbaum dropped the boy off at Dedera's home on Saturday, Oct. 20. She planned to pick her son up Monday morning and take him to school in Hinsdale, Barr said.

Fellenbaum confirmed this with a text message to Dedera the night she supposedly ran barefoot from Wolak's house, Barr said.

Fellenbaum has a 10-year-old daughter living in Milwaukee, Wis., and a 2-year-old son staying with another couple in the Chicago area, according to members of her family.

Fellenbaum moved from Rockford to Chicago about nine years ago but has recently lived in Hinsdale, so her two sisters reported her missing to the police there on Monday, Oct. 22. The Hinsdale police later realized the investigation was outside their jurisdiction and sent the family to the Joliet Police Department on Thursday, Oct. 25.

Fellenbaum's family has organized a search for the missing mother on Sunday. Searchers are to gather at 10 a.m. in the parking lot of Mistwood Golf Course in Romeoville.

The Chicago man who admitted to meeting for an anonymous sex date with Fellenbaum said Friday he did not know she was missing.

"I feel awful for the family," he said, telling how his encounter with Fellenbaum was "just a fleeting thing."

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